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    • Carolyn Wyler

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    • May 19, 2015 in Columnists

    A wedding piece of a toast

    When I found out that I would be giving a toast for David Lacy and Tawny Do’s wedding, my heart began to pound. I am not great at speaking in public as I get nervous being in front of large crowds. After I took a couple deep breaths, however, I was able to calm down and tell myself, “you can do this!”

    As I began to reminisce about David’s childhood for some ideas of what I could say, I was torn. There were so many good stories I could tell, but I knew it was part of my job as a mother to embarrass my children. The real stories that needed to be told were the ones that might make David squirm. I could not let myself down. (Hey, if he didn’t want me to say anything embarrassing about him, he shouldn’t have given me free reign of the microphone).

    So in honor of David (co-founder of iPinion) and Tawny’s wedding I’ll share with you a few memories about David.

    So often young children, as they begin to speak, have a difficult time with pronunciation and David was no exception. He called spaghetti pusgetti, which was cute, but made the dish a whole lot less appetizing.

    I use to cut my kid’s hair, as money back when they were growing up was always tight. David was very close to his grandfather, who was bald, so once when I was getting ready to cut his hair he asked for a haircut just like his grandpa’s — with a “hole” in it. I didn’t give it to him of course, but fortunately or unfortunately (however you may look at it) due to genetics, he might get that style eventually anyway.

    David first noticed that girls and boys were different when his younger female baby cousin was over at our house and her mom was changing her diaper. He observed that she didn’t have a penis and kindly volunteered for us to go to the store and buy her one.

    Even at the young age of two, David was trying to right things that were wrong or broken. When he noticed his parents sitting on opposite sides of a large couch, David grabbed the hand of one of his parents, dragged them over to the other one and had them sit down next to each other so that two stubborn people could talk things out.

    David was a beautiful baby who grew up to be a handsome, intelligent man. Strong and determined, he got his first job at the Davis Enterprise, having been a paper boy for them for three years prior. He became a writer for them and by the time he was 17, he had his own column, “Growing Younger.” He graduated with honors from Davis High School, went on to get his bachelors at UC Davis (with highest honors), then a masters in English at UC Irvine. He has taught many students to write and to write stories.

    Before David and Tawny met, they had begun to write their own life stories. Both of their stories are filled with memories of love, laughter, and happiness as well as sorrow. When they committed to each other in marriage, they began a new novel. What that novel is about is up to them. They can make it a comedy/adventure, war/drama, romance/love, fairytale/happily ever after, or my favorite, a combination of all of the above. It is up to them.

    There was a writer/poet by the name of Bill or Will something or other that David really likes, though I am not a fan. I guess this guy has written a play or two that has become quite popular. In one of his plays, there is a scene of a young girl by the name of Juliet on a balcony yelling down at her boyfriend Romeo (probably because she didn’t have good cell reception and couldn’t text him). They were two people from totally different families, lives and cultures, but their love was strong as evidenced when Juliet tells Romeo:

    “My bounty is as boundless as the sea, My love as deep. The more I give to thee, The more I have, for both are infinite”

    As I toasted David and Tawny’s new life together, I have this one wish for them — that they remember the words of William Shakespeare (yes, that did hurt me to say that — as I mentioned, I am not a fan).

    May your love be forever as deep as the sea and know that the more love you give, the more you’ll always have.

    Congratulations to David and Tawny and may they have a long life together of love and happiness.


      • Madgew

      • May 19, 2015 at 8:05 am
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      I had no idea you were related but the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Congrats to Tawny and David as they start their lives together.


      • David W.

      • May 19, 2015 at 12:57 pm
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      This was a great toast, Carolyn!



    • This was beautiful! I loved hearing about little David! I have also seen him grow up, and also hope he has a lifetime of joy and success!



    • Thanks all.



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