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  • It’s a hair thing

    my husband, iKen, has a miata. he loves his little car. he loves that it’s a convertible & he gets to tool around in it & make-believe he’s 25, or around that age, again. except for picking up chicks while driving/tooling around, it brings him...
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  • The balls-out truth about depression

    this is what i know this morning post coffee pre wine yesterday my friend asked me, did you ever try it? yes, i said, yes, i tried suicide. obviously, this was all around the news of robin williams & his death. yes, i said… i...
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  • Picking at the estrangement scab

    I’m just letting you know straight up that this is not about my family. It’s not. Been there, wrote that. Besides, I don’t want to write about all that crap, that ugliness, all that god-awful sadness that went down. I mean, why write about that...
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  • Ragtime

    (Excerpt from Marrying George Clooney, Confessions From A Midlife Crisis, Seal Press. Check out the vimeo at the end!) The clock reads 2:34 AM. I am determined to fall back asleep. Determined. I am determined to fall back asleep without any help from any sleep enhancement...
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  • Hello Fear

    February 3rd, 2013 — 3:03pm Fear. In Webster’s Dictionary, it is defined as an unpleasant feeling of apprehension or distress caused by the presence or anticipation of danger.In the Thesaurus, the word fear is synonymous with terror, dread, horror, fright, panic, alarm, trepidation and apprehension.Fear....
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  • Assisted loving

    We find her on the floor. She is sleeping. I am scared. She is snoring. I bend down, “Ma. Ma. Wake up.” “You’re so tall,” she says as she looks up at me. “Ma, you’re on the floor, “ I say. “Oh, really? The floor?”...
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  • Life is messy

    life is messy. it is. it is messy. and most folks don’t like messy. it’s true. most folks like tidy & neat & wrapped in a bow. yes, it’s true. not all folks, but most. we love the happily-ever-after, the non-confrontational, the clean sheets and...
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  • Just get messy

    life is messy. it is. it is messy. and most folks don’t like messy. it’s true. most folks like tidy & neat & wrapped in a bow. yes, it’s true. not all folks, but most. we love the happily-ever-after, the non-confrontational, the clean sheets and...
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  • retirement: round 1

    ken and i are together 24/7. okay, you know what, that’s not entirely true, we’re not together 24/7, we’re together more like 48/14. we’re together so much it feels like we’re fucking conjoined. ‘hey, i have to pee.’ ‘no, no… i have to pee.’ ken...
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