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    • Debra DeAngelo

    • April 14, 2013 in Columnists

    Could we have a conversation about guns without fists or pompoms?

    Relax. I’m not going to try to convince you of anything.

    Because the fact is, I haven’t even convinced myself where I stand on gun control. So, rather than read this column with your fists up, forming a rebuttal with each sentence, or shaking your pompoms in wild agreement, let’s put our fists and pompoms down, and talk. You can pick them back up at the end.

    Although I’ve tumbled the gun control issue over and over and over in my head, I keep arriving at the same ugly conclusion: Mean people are the real problem. The solution? Short of sending all the mean people to the moon, who knows. That’d be my preference.

    I’ve been rather silent on the gun control debate, watching conflicting passions erode friendships. Sadly, everyone has essentially the same argument: “I’m right, and you’re an idiot.” The gun control debate brings out everyone’s inner fundamentalist. Fundamentalists aren’t interested in an exchange of ideas. They’re only interested in defending their own viewpoints and attacking all opposing ones. When it comes to guns, we’ve become a nation of fundamentalists, and we can’t — won’t — agree.

    Thing is, we do agree. But we’re so busy arguing, we don’t realize it. We all want the same thing: to feel safe. And we don’t. We’re all afraid. The conflict is really about how to deal with our fear.

    For the purposes of this argument, I’m tossing out all the folks who get a boner over the Second Amendment and obsess about the big, bad government taking all their guns away so they can’t defend themselves when the big, bad government comes to take all their guns away. I just can’t include this level of paranoia in a rational discussion. It’s this simple: No matter how many weapons you’ve stockpiled, you’re no match for the U.S. military. If you think you are, you’re delusional. Besides, we already have the only weapon we need to fight the government: the ballot box.

    I want to focus on the other gun rights advocates. The sane ones. Yes! There are such people! And here’s the real shocker — some of them are actually NRA members! Problem is, you don’t hear from those folks as much because the delusional bonerheads get the most media attention. But they do exist. Besides hunters (and put that hamburger down before you criticize hunters, because the meat industry is entirely more brutal than hunting), most gun owners simply fear for the safety of themselves and their families.

    Well, pistol-whip me with the irony. It’s the same thing the gun control advocates fear for.

    However, gun rights advocates don’t believe the government will protect them from mean people, and therefore want to protect themselves. Gun control advocates believe the government will protect them, if we just have the right laws in place.

    Because that works so well with rape laws.

    Much as I loathe conceding this, the NRA is correct on this point: Laws only work on people who respect the law, and have little effect on people who don’t. But maybe if the penalty was severe enough, it’d get their attention. If not, at least the mean people would be off the streets. Let’s make it a felony to possess a gun not registered to you. Automatic five years in prison. Ten years if the gun’s stolen. Fifteen if you’re caught stealing it. No plea deals, no defense attorney shenanigans, no wiggle room. An ironclad prison term.

    Second, all guns must be registered. Period. Just like cars. We register our cars now, and nobody obsesses about an evil government plot to take away our cars. Buy all the guns you want. Pile them to the rafters. But they must all be registered. And by the way — an unregistered gun is still a gun not registered to you. Likewise, your registered gun in someone else’s hands, even a friend or family member, is possession of a gun not registered to them. See ironclad penalty, above.

    However, we still have the issue of people with no documented history of mental illness or violence — yet — buying guns legally, and doing mean things. Until “Minority Report” becomes reality and we can identify “precrimes,” there’s nothing we can do to predict or prevent that. Their background checks come back clean. And, the harsh reality of the Sandy Hook massacre is that all the background checks and tighter gun laws in the world wouldn’t have prevented that horror because the gunman took the weapons from the legal, registered owner: his mother.

    No matter what legislation we enact regarding gun control, the mentally ill population will always be a wild card. Our best hope to diminish the chances that they become violent is to address the factors that compel them to harm others.

    Maybe free mental health services are made available in every community. Maybe teachers, maybe all of us, are trained to spot loners or those being bullied, and reach out to them and connect them to mental health professionals.

    Beyond the mentally ill, there is the population that’s just plain mean. So, maybe we chip away at the factors that contribute to their meanness — and gun violence. Maybe we legalize street drugs, and remove the incentive to sell them on the street and fight or kill for them. Kinda stupid to bother with a drive-by shooting if you can get your crack at Walmart.

    Maybe we strip all tax benefits to companies that outsource more than 50 percent of their workforce, and double the benefits for building factories and creating jobs in economically distressed areas. Maybe if people can earn their own money, they’ll be less likely to rob or kill to get some. Maybe they won’t be so darn mean.

    Maybe we reexamine the Second Amendment and update the Constitution. Why not? We did that with slavery and voting rights for women. Maybe the time has come for guns. I don’t think the Founding Fathers wrote the Second Amendment in the spirit in which it’s being worshipped today. Maybe we do need to restrict which guns we can own and which ones we can’t. Moreover, maybe we need to vote on that, and see what the majority of We the People want. That’s true democracy — not gun ownership.

    But in order to even consider these and other options, we have to have conversations that are more meaningful than “I’m right and you’re an idiot.” We have to recognize that we all fear the same thing: not the guns per se, but people who use them to hurt others. We all want the same thing. We all just want to feel safe.

    Take a breath folks. We agree. We’re more alike than not.

    So, I’m done. You can put your fists back up or grab your pompoms now. Or not.






    • Love this. The best column I’ve read about the subject and exactly how I feel too. I don’t own pom poms … but I will drink to that 🙂

    • Great column. I disagree about housing all the unregistered gun owners in prisons, Our prisons have more than they can handle now. But the rest makes good sense.

      • Maya North

      • April 14, 2013 at 5:49 pm
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      This is what compromise is about. I have a friend who is a gun collector. He has scores of them and NObody is more responsible than he is with them. He’s a hunter and his cleans are clean and honest and he only takes what his family needs. I have another friend who is always packing. If the world came to an end, you better believe I’d move closer to them so they could protect me. That’s my most honest truth. And yet, I don’t want to own one myself. I think we’re on the same page here 😀

    • I am all about that gun control and reexamining/chucking out the second amendment. On top of that, the Second Amendment was to keep a farmer’s militia at the ready….it really had nothing to do with guns exclusively.

      • Norbie Kumagai

      • April 14, 2013 at 9:10 pm
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      I would never think of you as an Idiot, Goddess Debra… A close friend of mine in Southern CA is always carrying a firearm (concealed weapons permit; Retired Police Captain). When he gets pulled over (occasionally for speeding; once for tinted rear windows, seriously!!) he advises the police officer that he has a carry permit and a loaded weapon in the vehicle… Usually stops the conversation right there for whatever infraction he was pulled over with.

      His wife, whom I adore, feels much safer with her husband as a Retired Cop… <3 GREAT Column!!!

      • Carolyn Wyler

      • April 17, 2013 at 8:10 am
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