Energy killing beliefs that bleed us dry
We need energy, not just to move our cars and heat our homes, but to invigorate our spirits and keep us moving. Unfortunately, there is an overall sense of fatigue and energy depletion throughout society. We have worked long and hard and either that effort has paid off or it hasn’t. The end result is the same: We are tired.
For most people, the past two years have been exhausting, which means we must conserve energy when possible. From the perspective as a religious leader and a life coach, these three beliefs are where I see energy wasted for minimal results:
Ego energy: “My exhaustion makes me a better person”
Some people base their self worth on their ability and willingness to work beyond their own physical capabilities. They wear their exhaustion like a merit badge of their value to society.
“I worked so hard that I had to sleep for the entire week afterward.” “There is just too much to do! I work from before sun up until the wee hours of the morning and still don’t get it all done! I am so exhausted!”
Those who live a life of eternal exhaustion do no one a service, least of all the people who rely on them. Demanding more from ourselves from time-to-time is necessary for growth and is rewarding on a personal level. Doing so all the time, however, is martyrdom, which is not an act of service, but of ego. Physical and spiritual exhaustion keep us from doing anything particularly well. Self-care is vital and saying, “No, I cannot do that. The time and energy are just not there” when necessary is wise and discerning.
Arrogant energy: “My way is the right way”
Throughout the world, people approach the Divine in countless ways. I have felt the presence of God/Goddess in a Christian church, in an ashram, in a Pagan circle, and in a quiet forest. Once you feel the presence of the Divine, you will never mistake it for anything else.
God/Goddess/The Divine knows all of our spiritual languages, is comfortable speaking to us in many ways and is quite capable of doing so. Disregarding the path someone else takes to their own Higher Self because it is not your way is divisive and sanctimonious.
The same is true in the hotbed realm of politics. People are passionately wedded to their political beliefs and the demonization of those who do not share the same list of beliefs is the norm. Individuals who are invested in political beliefs and do not marginalize, humiliate or demean those who believe otherwise are rare. Gone are the days of intelligent discourse or “agreeing to disagree.” Like most religious factions, political discussion are less about discussion and more about fervent, enflamed attempts to convert.
A true energy master does not allow beliefs of others to threaten their own perspective and truth. There is room for everyone. How often does aggressive proselytizing result in anything other than lost energy? Rarely. How often does calm, intelligent, mutually respectful conversation open doors and create new ideas and perspective for everyone? Often.
Snobbish energy: “If you can’t prove it, it isn’t real”
Religion and the metaphysical world are vast and to me, the final frontier of knowledge. Little of what anyone believes spiritually is provable or measurable by current scientific methods. How arrogant and limiting is it to believe that science has reached its pinnacle of knowledge and that what a person says they have experienced is false unless they can cite scientific validation?
Science cannot prove why we dream. Does that mean we do not dream? Science cannot prove there are ghosts and spirits among us. Does that mean they are not there? The concept of a higher being is foreign to science, so should we never honor Deity? Can we now somehow prove a negative? The objective fact is that when it comes to an unprovable subjective belief, the person questioning the belief does not know it didn’t happen.
None of us know if Jesus was a real person, an amalgam of several people, or a fabricated legend, so who are we quick to scorn those who do believe? Or those who do not believe? No one knows definitively about the afterlife, so are those who believe in reincarnation or Heaven provably wrong? Is it really so challenging to allow people to believe differently than we do without it being an affront to what we ourselves do or do not believe?
Recently, science considered herb lore ridiculous and unsubstantiated. Now, doctors agree that cranberry juice can relieve cystitis and chewing white willow bark eases a headache because it is a key component of aspirin. Open your mind to the wonders, even the unproven ones, of the world. At a minimum, respect that others are open to those possibilities even if you are not.
It is a huge challenge to cut back on what we do to allow more free time for restorative rest. It is terrifying to open our minds to ways other than our own, not necessarily to embrace them as our truths but to allow others to do so without demeaning them for it. It is a true act of faith to accept that scientific understanding in humankind is relatively new and that some things can be without the substantiation of academic proof.
All of that comes down to one premise — faith. Faith in ourselves and our value to the world. Faith in each other, even if past experience has wrecked the potential for that faith. Faith that magic is at work in the world in our currently unprovable experiences.
The ability to rise above these energy killing practices is an act of tremendous strength, but doing so frees up energy on so many of life’s levels. I am reminded of what Rodney King said when he unwittingly became the symbol of one of the most violent times in recent American history.
“Can’t we all just get along?”
I have faith that we can.