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    • Debra DeAngelo

    • December 12, 2014 in Columnists

    That was ME who wanted to slap Martha Stewart

    This isn’t a column rerun. It’s a reclaiming — of my own work. It may seem familiar if you’ve been reading my column since 1997, and God bless you if you have. More likely, you received it as a joke email circa 1999 or read it on a humor website. You might’ve chuckled and thought, “She’s a witty gal — whoever she is.”

    Well, she is ME!

    You see, this column went viral when we didn’t even know what viral was — emailed and posted rampantly without my permission and, more important, without my byline. It’s all over the place on the internet. I’ve confronted several websites posting this column illegally, asking that they either add my byline or remove the column. Some comply, others just ignore me.

    Because it’s difficult to afford a copyright lawyer on a weekly newspaper editor’s salary, I’m reissuing this column with my byline, so my name is finally attached to it. (Whether that’s Ramos, LoGuercio or DeAngelo.) It’s my column, and I want it back.


    All I want for Christmas is to slap Martha Stewart

    By Debra (Ramos, LoGuercio)DeAngelo

    Dear Santa,

    I rarely ask for much. This year is no exception. I don’t need diamond earrings, handy slicer-dicers or comfy slippers. I only want one little thing, and I want it deeply.

    I want to slap Martha Stewart.

    Now, hear me out, Santa. I won’t scar her or draw blood or anything. Just one good smack, right across her smug little cheek.

    I get all cozy inside just thinking about it.

    Don’t grant this wish just for me. Do it for thousands of women across the country. Through sheer vicarious satisfaction, you’ll be giving a gift to us all.

    Those of us leading average, garden variety lives aren’t concerned with gracious living. We feel pretty good about ourselves if our paper plates match when we stack them on the counter buffet-style for dinner.

    We’re tired of Martha showing us how to make centerpieces from hollyhock dipped in 18 carat gold. We’re plumb out of liquid gold. Unless it’s of the furniture polish variety.

    We can’t whip up Martha’s creamy holiday sauce, spiced with turmeric. Most of us can’t even say turmeric, let alone figure out what to do with it.

    Okay, Santa, maybe you think I’m being a little harsh. But I’ll bet with all the holiday rush, you didn’t catch that interview with Martha in last week’s USA Weekend.

    I’m surprised there was enough room on the page for her ego.

    We discovered that not only does Martha avoid take-out pizza (she’s only ordered it once), she refuses to eat it cold. (No cold pizza? Is Martha Stewart Living?) When it was pointed out that she could microwave it, she replied, “I don’t have a microwave.” The reporter, Jeffrey Zaslow, noted that she said this “in a tone that suggests you shouldn’t either.”

    Well lah-dee-dah.

    Imagine that, Santa. That lovely microwave you brought me years ago, in which I’ve learned to make complicated dishes like popcorn and hot chocolate, has been declared undesirable by Queen Martha.

    What next? The coffeemaker?

    In the article, we learned that Martha has 40 sets of dishes adorning an entire wall in her home.

    Forty sets. (Can you spell “overkill”?) And neatly put away, no less. If my dishes make it to the dishwasher, that qualifies as “put away” at my house.

    Martha tells us she’s already making homemade holiday gifts for friends. “Last year, I made amazing silk-lined scarves for everyone,” she boasts.

    Not just scarves, mind you. Amazing scarves. Martha’s obviously not shy about giving herself a little pat on the back. In fact, she does so with such frequency that one has to wonder if her back is black and blue.

    She goes on to tell us that “homemaking is glamour for the ’90s” and says her most glamorous friends are “interested in stain removal, how to iron a monogram, how to fold a towel.”

    I have one piece of advice, Martha: Get new friends.

    Glamorous friends fly to Paris on a whim. They drift past the Greek Islands on yachts, sipping champagne from crystal goblets. They step out for the evening in shimmering satin gowns, whisked away by tuxedoed chauffeurs.

    They do not spend their days pondering the finer art of toilet bowl sanitation.

    Zaslow notes that Martha was named one of America’s 25 most influential people by Time magazine. (Nosing out Mother Theresa, Madeline Albright and Maya Angelou, no doubt.) The proof of Martha’s influence: After she bought white-fleshed peaches in the supermarket, Martha says, “People saw me buy them. In an instant, they were all gone.”

    I hope Martha never decides to jump off a bridge.

    A guest in Martha’s home told Zaslow how Martha gets up early to Rollerblade with her dogs to pick fresh wild blackberries for breakfast. This confirms what I’ve suspected about Martha all along: She’s obviously got too much time on her hands. Teaching dogs to Rollerblade. What a showoff.

    If you think the dogs are spoiled, listen to how Martha treats her friends: She gave one friend all 272 books from the Knopf Everyman’s Library. It didn’t cost much. Pocket change, really. Just $5,000. But what price friendship, right?

    When asked if others should envy her, Martha replies, “Don’t envy me. I’m doing this because I’m a natural teacher. You shouldn’t envy teachers. You should listen to them.”

    Zaslow must have slit a seam in Martha’s ego at this point, because once the hot air came hissing out, it couldn’t be held back.

    “Being an overachiever is nothing despicable. It is only admirable. Never lower your standards,” says Martha.

    And on her Web page on the Internet, Martha declares herself an “important presence,” as she graciously helps people organize their sad, tacky little lives.

    There you have it, Santa. If there was ever someone who deserved a good smack, it’s Martha Stewart. But I bet I won’t get my gift this year.

    You probably want to slap her yourself.


    (This column by Debra Ramos (now Debra DeAngelo) was originally published in the Winters Express and Davis Enterprise in December 1997.)

    • Go go girl. Claiming what is rightfully yours. Wonder if Martha ever read it?

      • Sivan Butler-Rotholz

      • December 12, 2014 at 11:45 am
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      Love that you’re reclaiming what is yours! It is witty and funny and very D-Lo. I’m not one to smack anybody, and as a general rule I try to spread feminism without cutting anyone else down, but I think even Martha could get a good chuckle out of this.

    • So wonderfully clever — is Martha Stewart Living? Glad you reclaimed it!

      • Maya North

      • December 12, 2014 at 5:39 pm
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      From what I understand, she ground her husband into paste before jettisoning him and her daughter cannot abide her. No great surprise. She stole the name I was given at birth (oh, yeah, she wasn’t born a Martha), but it’s yet another reason I can’t stand being called by that name (among thousands). Life slapped her, though — can we say convicted felon? All that aside, the fact that your column was stolen was execrable and I am both delighted to see you reclaim it, I am even more delighted to have read it! 😀

      • So true! This column was written long before she got in trouble for insider trading and landed in jail. (Can you IMAGINE her angst over that jail cell – and how she turned it into a cozy nest? 18k gold stencils, maybe?) So, yes, life ended up slapping her far better than I could ever hope to!

    • I want to slap Martha Stewart in her underwear. 🙂

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